Blending Mom and Dad
The modern family is wonderfully fluid, apparently able to absorb any permutation of race, religion, gender, or class; its recombinations of conventional marriage or divorce, living together or remarriage, seem almost limitless. This fluidity has benefited many successful family sitcoms, as their regular half-hour setup-problem-resolution format neatly merges familiar and emergent cultural patterns. For example, at a time when it was still common for adult married children to live with parents, All in the Family used that domestic arrangement to explore the political conflicts between the 1970s and the 50s (represented by Gloria and Meathead versus Archie and Edith). Or, in the 1980s, Cosby showed the life of a black family comfortably settled in an upper-middle-class lifestyle.
NBC's Daddio is the latest sitcom to look at the changing
modern family, while still holding fast to a familiar format. In
Daddio, one parent maintains a career while the other parent
stays home with the kids, with the twist being that Chris Woods
(resurrected Commish star Michael Chiklis) chooses to quit his
job when his wife, Linda (Anita Barone) gets a well-paying job as
a lawyer. Thus begins a running gender-role inversion joke
premised on a stay-at-home father's attempt to settle into the
role of "Mom" for children aged 12, 10, 4, and 1 and a half
years, in the middle class suburb of Pasadena, California.
Although we've seen a number of films that show fathers as the
primary parents ranging from Kramer vs. Kramer and Mr. Mom
to Three Men and a Baby and last year's popular Adam Sandler
vehicle, Big Daddy what makes Daddio atypical is that
Chris Woods is not a wayward man learning to be a better one by
becoming a good father. He's an already good man who gladly
takes on the challenge of becoming a good mother. From this point
of departure, Daddio has the potential to address some vital
issues facing the modern family. What deep effects does going
from earner to nurturer have on a man's experience of his own
masculinity? How does it affect a woman to be away from her
children, knowing they are at home? Do children develop
differently with a father as principal caregiver?
The first four episodes of Daddio get a mixed review regarding
their use of this situation, which is, frankly, an unusual one
for network television. In the pilot episode, Chris clearly
states he wants to raise his kids, and to prove that he's ready
to take on a new role, he dons a tiara so he can play princess
with his four-year-old son. The show also explores how a more
rigidly masculine character interprets Chris's decision to play
father-as-mommy, when neighbor and ex-Marine Bobick (Steve Ryan)
immediately begins harping on Chris about doing a "female" job.
The second episode continues to work the masculine/maternal seam,
with Chris starting to understand how undervalued women are for
what they do as mothers, and Linda starting to feel the pressure
of being away from the children while also being the sole
breadwinner. It was at this point that the series began to drift
away from its initial idea to explore the various effects of
male parenting and into a more traditional sitcom structure
and themes. Episode three focused on a simple personality
conflict between Chris and his neighbor Barb Krolack (Amy
Wilson), and came up well short of examining any larger issues of
either masculinity or motherhood. By episode four, the series
seemed to become a completely generic family sitcom, with Chris
arguing with Bobick over their property line.
In both of these latter episodes, Daddio comes dangerously
close to losing what makes it interesting in the first place. In
order to succeed, Daddio must show us new things that happen
when the man becomes the daily caregiver. It must push at that
cultural nerve that will help us to question and come to
understand families as social, political, and economic
constructions, and do so with vital story ideas that are
entertaining. If it doesn't offer a fresh perspective on
families, Daddio becomes as it demonstrated in its fourth
episode a very standard family sitcom, and its chances of
success are much dicier.
Although the show is well-written, quickly paced, and peppered
with funny and commercial-ready bits, without distinctive
storylines, it isn't different than what we've seen before.
Which means the characters will have to sustain our interest week
after week. This could be a problem. The kids are likable and
Barone is a believable mom, affecting a relaxed, kind of knock-around
sexiness reminiscent of Cosby's Phelicia Rashad. Chiklis
is a little more troubling. His comic acting seems more inclined
to a stage than television, in that he oversells every punchline
to get his laughs. He has plenty of energy, but he doesn't have
that easy and unique humor that allows a Bill Cosby or Tim Allen
to carry a show. He's good at the dramatic moments that are
essential for allowing a sitcom to hit real emotional nerves, but
there's a question as to whether he's funny enough for all of
this to rest on his shoulders.
He might get away with it if his supporting characters were
strong (e.g., Will can be so vanilla because Jack is so
flamboyant on Will & Grace). Unfortunately, the supporting
characters on Daddio are a weakness rather than a strength.
Supporting characters on a sitcom generally have two main
purposes: as conflict with the main characters and teachers for
the main characters. Daddio offers Barb and Rod Krolack (Kevin
Crowley) as the "stupid" characters, a convention that isn't that
interesting anymore, and gives them very little opportunity to
teach Chris or Anita much of anything. It also offers Holly
Martin (Suzy Nakamura) as a sarcastic Japanese acquaintance, also
a pretty familiar character in comic line-ups. The fact that she
is pregnant might offer Chris some opportunity to learn something
from her, but so far there's been none of that. Finally, there
is the uni-dimensional Bobick. Although Ryan is a good deadpan
actor, instead of a hyper-masculine Marine, the show could have
used the type of multi-faceted Wilson on Home Improvement, the
kind of side character who can help explore the issues instead of
blandly offering the same on-going one-note conflict.
Even with these weaknesses, however, I think Daddio will find
its voice and develop. It has located a cultural flashpoint that
forces us to look at what happens when we blend the masculine and
the maternal, and there is real power in that situation. Like all
shows that find topical, involving spaces wherein to play out the
lives of their characters, Daddio has the potential to set off
cultural alarms and debates, while also entertaining us on a
weekly basis. If it digs more deeply at the psychological and
cultural issues present in the minefield it has discovered,
Daddio might manage to be a very successful sitcom indeed.