Single White Females
Gilmore Girls is a series about an attractive,
youthful, vibrant single mother and her more sober but
equally fabulous daughter. It comes on the heels of
some 1999 movies with the same premise, for instance,
Tumbleweeds (directed by Gavin O'Connor) and
Anywhere But Here (Wayne Wang). Both of these films
illustrated how a girl's already confusing pre-teen
and teenage years are further complicated by
relationships with mothers who do not fit the mold,
and who often place their own desires above the
presumed needs of their children. For these girls,
having a wacky mother is something of a curse.
In the case of Gilmore Girls, however, the world is
generally quite good. People in Stars Hollow,
Connecticut (population 9,973), where the Gilmore
Girls live, confront problems
directly, through communication and after thoughtful
consideration. The two Girls of the title are
32-year-old Lorelai Gilmore (Lauren Graham) and her
daughter 16-year-old Lorelai "Rory" Gilmore (newcomer
Alexis Bledel). Graham is fresh off the short-lived
NBC summer series M.Y.O.B., also about a single
woman raising a teenage girl. As Opal Brown on
M.Y.O.B., Graham had to play the heavy. In her new
incarnation, she gets to be free-spirited and fun. The
twist of Gilmore Girls is supposed to be that mom
has the heart of a teenager, while teenaged Rory is
serious, like an adult.
The series was created by Amy Sherman-Palladino, who
also wrote the series premiere and whose production
credits include Veronica's Closet. The director of
this first episode is Leslie Linka Glatter, who has
previously directed episodes of Ally McBeal and The West Wing. Gilmore Girls resembles The West Wing
in its witty idealism, lack of sarcasm, and portrayal
of people as either good or just misguided. Lorelai's
parents fit the latter category: Emily and Richard
Gilmore (Kelly Bishop and The Practice's Edward
Herrmann) are cold and status-conscious. Richard seems
oblivious to all but his golf game, and Emily, while
she means well, is starchy and interfering, and seems
to want to remake Rory into the daughter Lorelai never
became as a result of her teen pregnancy and decision
to raise her child on her own.
Despite Lorelai's short skirts, the script has her
continually concerned that her daughter not follow in
her footsteps. She is an ideal parent in that she is
heavily involved in her daughter's life, and also
presumably better able to understand her daughter
because of their age proximity. Mom looks so young
that the two are often mistaken for sisters. And both
are quite adorable. Lorelai has a successful career
managing an inn and lives in a charming old house with
plenty of room. She wears chic suits and high heels
to work, but she's so cool that she also looks great
in cutoffs, a tight T-shirt, and cowboy boots. Plus,
she squeals with delight when she hears the latest XTC
cd. Daughter is a straight-A student who actually
likes her private school uniform (despite the fact
that this is the WB, the plaid kilts on the girls at
Chilton fall to the knee and their sweaters are rather
bulky -- Britney Spears need not apply). Rory is smart
and hard-working, even reading Madame Bovary just
for fun.
While this inversion of parent-child cliches may seem
to run counter to recent calls for more "family
values" on television, the series has a stamp of
approval from the Family Friendly Forum's Script
Development Fund, described on the WB Website as
follows: "An initiative between some of the nation's
top advertisers and the WB, the program is intended to
offer a greater array of compelling family
programming on network television. The strong, loving
mother-daughter relationship portrayed in Gilmore Girls reflects the growing reality of this new type
of American family -- approximately fifty percent of
families today consist of one-parent households"
(www.familyprogramawards.com/). Almost immediately,
you learn that the decision for Lorelai not to marry
Rory's father was mutual, and the two remain on good
terms (the yet-unseen Christopher is a successful
entrepreneur who lives in California).
In fact, Lorelai appears to be a happy single parent
-- something rarely seen on television drama and quite
a switch from the days of Murphy Brown, who was
vilified by politicians (most loudly, Dan Quayle) for
her decision to rear her child on her own. I think the
difference here is in the amount of apology offered.
Murphy Brown offered no excuses and was unrepentant.
While Lorelai Gilmore is plainly pleased to have Rory
in her life, she does talk of having "thrown [her]
life away" and things not going as she had "planned."
Not that insisting that one's child be educated and
aware of the consequences of sex is surely a bad
thing, but in the case of Gilmore Girls, never-wed
single parenting falls into the "mistakes were made"
category, while Murphy Brown made an active choice.
In addition, in both cases, the mothers are
privileged, white, and have financial support on which
to fall in case of emergency -- Murphy through her
career and Lorelai through her wealthy parents. I am
still waiting for a show focusing on a non-white,
content parent who is single by choice. The idealized
New England setting also helps counter the
non-traditional family in Gilmore Girls. This isn't
a mother and child in anonymous suburbs or worse,
the city. What better place raise a child than in a
quaint, clean, Connecticut village in which everyone
knows everyone else. Without a dad, I guess it does
take a village to raise a child. Go ahead girls, don't
have an abortion have that baby at age 16. It will
all work out just fine, right? If you are pretty and
charming and live in Utopia, everything will be great.
And this version of Utopia is indeed unbelievably
healthy and endearing, full of quirky New Englanders.
They take care of one another: the coffee shop owner
is concerned about Lorelai's caffeine intake; town
busybody Miss Patty (Liz Torres) knows of a part-time
job for a kid who needs money. Drella (Alex
Borstein), the cranky harp player in the Independence
Inn where Lorelai works, is an amusing curmudgeon who
ignores the inn's clients but plays her instrument
beautifully. There are some less endearing folks on
the show, but they're clearly plot contrivances. The
students and faculty at the Chilton school which is
in Hartford, not Stars Hollow for instance, make
Rory's first day there miserable. One girl,
unprovoked, tells her to "stay out of the way" and not
work on the school paper; one boy continually refers
to Rory as "Mary" (as in Virgin) and creepily comes on
to her in the hallway; the headmaster, a friend of
Richard and Emily's, warns her she is likely to fail
out of Chilton. What I get from this is that rich
country club people are much more likely than others
to be uptight and mean than anyone else; they are by
definition critical and insecure. In my experience,
this is not entirely false, but in Gilmore Girls it
sets up a very neat and not terribly original "us
against them" situation, reminiscent of John Hughes
films, among many, many others. Still, it is an
attractive premise Americans love the underdog,
right? And the bad people really are not evil, just a
product of their circumstances: they don't know any
better.
I get the same feeling watching Gilmore Girls as
when I watch My So-Called Life. The situation and
the characters seem too sweet and idealized; when
people are less than kind, they have reasons
psychological problems, trouble at home, unrequited
love, too much WASPiness. Nothing that happens is too
dire or pressing. There are no vampires in Stars
Hollow. The Gilmores' world is a relentlessly
comforting and inviting one. So even if I'm not
fascinated or much surprised, when the show is over,
not only do I want to know how Rory deals with the
mean girl at school, I want to help her out. Does the
cute boy from Episode 1 come back? I want to go for
drinks with Lorelai and discuss whether she should go
out with the rich Chilton dad or with the cute, cranky
coffee house owner. These questions and others equally
insignificant may keep me coming back to the show, at
least for a little while.